Oh, I've had this happen before - not at engineers but at someone I was trying to get to resolve a problem and then they said "no, can't help" and I felt very upset and desperate so I started to involuntarily cry and then they went "oh actually I can help after all it turns out."
The problem is with people not taking us seriously until the proper Signals of Feminine Distress were emitted, but it is totally reasonable to be feeling both cross at the person and at yourself for feeling like you reinforced patriarchy even though it wasn't your fault.
(Also, "we always go the extra mile!" is clearly disproved by "well then why didn't you do that until after you made me cry", engineer guy!)
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Date: 2014-02-07 06:37 pm (UTC)The problem is with people not taking us seriously until the proper Signals of Feminine Distress were emitted, but it is totally reasonable to be feeling both cross at the person and at yourself for feeling like you reinforced patriarchy even though it wasn't your fault.
(Also, "we always go the extra mile!" is clearly disproved by "well then why didn't you do that until after you made me cry", engineer guy!)